The Art Of Tipping
I’ve been to a few eateries in San Diego that aren’t quite fast food joints, but aren’t quite full fledged restaurants. When you arrive you queue up in a line and order your food at a register, from which you’re given a number and you proceed to sit down at a table of your choosing where a server eventually delivers you your food on a plate along with silverware and napkins.
I’m not quite sure what proper tipping etiquette is for establishments such as these, but I tend to err on the side of caution and typically drop a couple of bucks on the table when I leave. The way I figure it, some minimum wage employee is not only bringing your food out to you, but also cleaning up your dishes after you leave, and that deserves at least the smallest bit of recognition.
I don’t want you to think that I’m being guilted into leaving behind a tip. I believe these types of establishments provide a somewhat niche service that allows for a more civil way to enjoy a meal that’s half a step above fast food. It’s not first class, but it’s not coach either.
I try to pay attention to the people around me as they leave, and I notice that very few seem to leave behind any sort of a tip. Now, I understand a waiter didn’t usher you in, describe in detail the chef’s special of the day, tuck a nappy into your shirt collar and coo over your wife’s appearance, but show some heart. Some poor guy brings you your food and cleans up your mess after you leave. In the end it’s only a buck or two. Show them that you at least acknowledge their efforts. ”But….they aren’t being forced to work there,” I can hear some of you say. Yeah, I know, but think about this; how would you feel if the shoe was on the other hand and you were the one serving and cleaning up after total strangers all day long? Wouldn’t finding a couple of bucks left behind for you every once in a while make you feel better about your current situation?
Ahhh…perhaps I’m just over thinking this whole thing. If so, then so be it. I’m no Mr. Pink. I’ll continue to tip because I have a bit of empathy for my fellow human beings.
You’re absolutely right. I think people who don’t tip should be forced to work in a job like this. Whether it’s someone’s choice to wait on them or not, it’s a tough way to make a living.
I think everyone should have to work in retail for a while, too. It should be mandatory. Like the Israeli army.
While I do agree that everyone from lawyers to teachers to waiters choose their jobs, I s to tip. The solution? I developed the practice of one flat rate for all service staff with an exception for visits when the bill is large. The only time that no tipping is appropriate would be at places where the service is poor. Otherwise, it’s the courteous thing to do! You never know…..a waiter could be saving up for some sports training like Hilary Swank on Million Dollar Baby, so tipping could be a worthwhile contribution to efforts of one to better himself or herself or even participate in a hobby like collecting rare stamps or something.
Well said kathcom/Nicole. I used to be a bartender, so I know how important tips are. I know these particular places aren’t expecting tips, but I’m sure it’s very much appreciated. For the amount of work they do they really do deserve the pittance we can afford to leave behind. It’s the same with my barber/hairstylist. I’ve been seeing the same person for nearly a year. I appreciate the quick service, excellent haircuts, and the fact that she doesn’t bend my ear until I feel it’s about to break off. I tip her well, and last Christmas gave her an extra $50. IMHO, hairstylists are really under appreciated.